June 24, 2004
Mr. Y's daughter Melissa is coming over this weekend, and we are going to Devon to stay in a country house with one of Mr. Y's English friends and her English/Swedish kids (ironically, she was one who was vocal about how he should go back to his wife in the early days, although that perspective has changed completely) and a few Swedish families, in an attempt to celebrate a delayed version of the Swedish Midsommar holidays. I had better work on my rusty brain and make sure my Swedish is intact.
I am nervous to fuck.
I am not good at meeting new people. When I meet new people, in the past I have knocked myself out of my body and taken on some new role. I become this woman who is the life of the party, who swoops in, desperate for people to like her and desperate to not reflect badly on the situation.
Mr. Y hates that woman.
So do I.
I try to keep that woman at bay, to feel when I start to split out of myself and become someone else. Maybe I am not the life of the party when I am myself, but who says I need to be? Why can't I just relax and meet new people without such wild trepidation, such utter fear? More often than not, I will cancel on new events, happy to keep my little self locked up. You can look at the lion in the cage, but you can't get close enough to her.
Even more, I am so nervous about Melissa.
I want her to be happy, I want her to have fun. I confess I want her to like me, but I want her to not feel she is being disloyal to her mother if she does so. I want to not feel so confused when her clinginess sets in. I want to take her fragile feelings and wrap her up in bubble tape, making sure she laughs and is loved to the fullest extent that she deserves in her trusting and innocent life.
I try so hard to be happy and do the right thing, but all around me are the ravages of the damage I cause-cold and informal mails from the family (if I get them at all), hurt feelings and strewn relationships. X Partner Unit called me on Tuesday.
"I have some mail here for you." he said, coldly.
"Oh, sorry." I replied, feeling childish. "I put in the forwarding mail order yesterday, so you should be clear of my mail now. You can just mail it to me now."
"Fine." he replied.
"Er...everything ok? Big Midsommar plans?" I ask, wondering about the phone call.
"Yeah, I'm hoping to get drunk and get laid."
Hmm. I didn't feel upset by his words, I actually do hope he moves on and has a new life full of happiness and sex, but it seemed an odd thing to say.
"Ah. Good. So you're moving on then?" I asked, honestly hoping to have a good dialogue about it.
"I might as well try. It's not like we had enough sex."
Wow. Ok, kid gloves off.
"OK...so it sounds like we can't be friends, then." I replied, testing out the floorboards of the new twist of events.
"Well, we don't talk that much now but it's not like we ever really did before." he replied curtly.
"Right, ok." I said, thinking this call was over. "I'll go now, all ok with the cats?"
Just then, I heard Mumin in the background, crying to be pet. I think my heart fell about a thousand feet into the cold crust of the earth's surface, and all I wanted t odo was reach through the phone line and grab hold of her neck, dragging her to my side of the phone line.
"They're fine. When are you shipping them?" he asked.
"November 28, which is the earliest date." I replied, heart hauling its way back into me.
"Damn. That's so long from now. Fine, whatever."
Click.
The Kafka dreams ravage me. Two nights ago I woke up from an evening of dreaming of exes. Mr. Y was back with his, trying to work it out. I was in court with X Partner Unit, crying and begging for him to forgive me. He perches on a wall like a raven, coldly watching me, and when I squirm and cry and beg for forgiveness, he looks annoyed. When I stand up and start screaming and raging, he cocks his head to take in the sound.
"That's it. That's what you need. Be angry, let it all out." he says softly, before flying away.
Last night I dreamt he euthanized my cats, and no one in my life would listen to how agonizing it was for me, I couldn't talk and shape the words and air over my throat.
Today, brought low by a mis-understanding this morning, I swooped into the office, the rain clouds pregnant and the wind unforgiving. I walked across the Waterloo bridge, battling the wind and angry with everyone around me. A young man holds his hand out.
"Can you spare some change, Miss?" he asks, scruffy blond hair breezing in the wind.
"Sorry." I reply.
"Ok, well have a nice day!" he calls cheerily in return.
I walk on.
Then I stop.
I'm a fucking liar.
I open my wallet and take out a few silver coins and I walk back to him.
"Can you spare some change, Miss?" he asks again, confused.
"You know what? I can." I reply, and place the coins in his hand.
Maybe he buys beer. Maybe he buys a sandwich. Either way, who the hell am I to tell him what he should purchase?
I walk on, nearly to the office, when a cab swings into the road I am crossing, its tires noisy on the pavement. He stops short of hitting me and honks.
I stop walking.
He honks again.
I just stand there and look at him, no emotion on my face.
He starts gesticulating wildly and talking.
I just stand, the wind battling the hair over my face, whipping it around like a halo of hate.
He then sits there and looks at me.
I stare back.
Finally I walk on, and he drives past me, just looking at me. I walk on, thoughts pounding through my head. I am crazy. I am happy. I am a cunt. I am a liar. I am sexy. I am smart. I am alone.
And maybe all or none of them are true.
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