July 29, 2004
I was blinded by the sunlight.
Fantastic.
So it's with a slightly more chipper heart that I sit with the windows and doors to the house open. I wear boxer shorts in the garden and think of lovely cold pasta dishes to feed us on. And above all, I worship the sunlight and adjust my hems to suit it.
I had to go to London yesterday for meetings, so I did what any self-respecting businesswoman would do on a day when the temperature would reach the 80's in a London transport system with no air conditioning. I reached into the inner confines of myself and explored my levels of comfort and professionalism. Then I went to my closet to determine the best way to satisfy my desire to be taken seriously at work and my strive to enjoy my life.
And I wore the shortest fucking kilt that I have in my closet.
And strappy shoes.
With a very tasteful sleeveless top.
And man, I felt glamorous and young. My skirt, a lovely pleated number that covered to the middle of my thigh, looked very nice, not quite too short, and it made me feel so...young. Attractive. Nicely turned out. And...it has to be said...I think I have a great pair of long legs.
So with an appreciative comment from Mr. Y, I was off to the Big Smoke. He dropped me off at the train station and I read my latest Augusten Burrows book silently and happily the entire ride. Once there, I did what I prefer to do when the weather is decent and I walked the 20 minute walk from Waterloo to my office.
Walking on my way to the office from the train, I started wondering about a normal life. Mr. Y and I had had a conversation about that a few weeks ago, when he felt I wasn't very settled. The truth is, I wondered about when we would have a normal life.
So what is a normal life? Well...I don't really know, only it can't be as pipeline crazy as my life has been so far. This simply can't be what a real, normal life is. If normal life is like that, why is it so damn exhausting?
Normal life (to me), is the stuff that blogs and movies are made of. Dropping off kids to ballet and football practice. Racing around the kitchen trying to get the bologna sandwich crusts cut off in time to whack them in a plastic ziploc bag decorated with cartoon animals and into a hardtop Lizzie McGuire lunchbox. Sitting on the bed wearing my glasses and reading a good book while Mr. Y reads about his airplanes. Changing the door decoration on the front door to reflect the change of the seasons and holidays-a gruesome and overly cute Jack-O-Lantern puffy sculpture replaced by a repugnantly sweet looking Santa Clause. Going on holiday and packing twice as much stuff as you need. Getting cards that include the both of us and consider us a unit.
Don't get me wrong-I'm not at all complainging about our champagne Fridays, the spur-of-the-moment weekends to Paris or Venice. Heading to the bed on a Sunday afternoon for a three hour romp, or a picnic in the sun that includes a little oral pleausre with the camembert. I love all of those things, too. I don't want to give them up.
My whole life has been a wild roller coaster, tipping extremely at times and leaving me nervous as I sit alone in my roller coaster car, a yellow hard plastic number that is melted with handprints and a few crusty french frieds, my seat belt frayed along the edges, leaving me to think it's only a matter of time until I get cast out to my death at the next crazy curve. I grew up an Air Force child, which meant moving every two to four years. More so, I grew up in a turbulent household, so that meant moving at the drop of an unkind word. I've been married twice and have been mental for twice as long. I've been all over the world and never figured out where home is. I've left little parts of me like crumbs all over the place, and I am no longer able to follow where I left them.
These days, work has slowed down due to the summer months. I go into the office once a week. I answer mails, I partake in a few conference calls. Since I work from home those days, I do all of this in my boxer shorts and enjoy the background noise of "Buffy the Vampire Slayer Season 7" and "Charmed" (I admit it. I watch it. I think Prue is a skanky ho and Piper has a fucked-up eyebrow, but I admit I watch the show). I come flying down the stairs and launch myself at Mr. Y when he comes home. I clean the house. I think about Alice.
At the same time, sometimes it all feels so temporary. We are renting this house and have filled it with inexpensive furniture we have little allegiance to-our exes got our couches, dressers, and TV stands, so we needed a quick IKEA fix. His divorce is final next month and mine just was. We want to buy a house, but we have the issue of settlements and where we want to live. My family isn't speaking to me, and his is only just doing so. We're still learning how to fit our feet into the boots of step-parenting, being away from the kids, learning how the other person takes up some of our breathing space, and how to handle each other's anger. Maybe soon he won't need to talk me down from the ledge when he loses his temper, and maybe soon he'll feel secure in how I feel about him to not stress sometimes.
Maybe, just maybe, this is a normal life. Maybe life really is so up and down, perhaps what you don't know about the normal lives you read about in blogs and see on tv is that after the normal hubby and wife go to bed, they get out their PVC gear and have a good spanking session. Maybe the husband goes to work and is a stunning asshole. Maybe the mother-in-law makes cutting comments to the wife at Thanksgiving dinners, comments that send the wife running for the cooking sherry in the pantry to calm her nerves. Maybe all that's normal life, too.
Kim used to tell me that I have a knack for crisis and chaos in life, that everything around me is always going 100 mph. I used to believe him, as I would look at the train wrecks that I would create around me and inevitably think: Why does my life always have to have a liberal sprinkling of crazy on it? Perhaps the truth is, I just needed the right person next to me to let me know that the crisis and chaos in my life is normal and manageable, if only I have a little help.
I think about this as I take the tube to Habitat, where I go to pick up some lighting fixtures Mr. Y wants (I love that he pays so close attention to our lights). As I swing out of the tube car, thinking about normal life, a man standing in the tube by the door checks out my little skirt. He sticks his head out of the car to check me out from behind, and is startled to bits when he gets smacked in the back of the head by the closing door.
I laugh my ass off as he rubs the back of his head, the tube car launching into the tunnel.
I hurry home and tell Mr. Y about it, and then sitting down next to him on the couch I take his shorts off and provide him with an extra dose of oral pleasure.
Maybe this is a normal life, for an abnormal girl.
If that's the case, then I will take it, with a few tweaks and additions over time. And I'll keep the champagne Fridays, thanks.
Posted by: Everydaystranger at
08:22 AM
| Comments (29)
| Add Comment
Post contains 1420 words, total size 7 kb.
Posted by: Emma at July 29, 2004 09:27 AM (NOZuy)
Posted by: Simon at July 29, 2004 09:34 AM (OyeEA)
Posted by: Random Penseur at July 29, 2004 11:12 AM (X3Lfs)
Posted by: Helen at July 29, 2004 11:17 AM (pS7+B)
Posted by: croxie at July 29, 2004 11:33 AM (s153F)
Posted by: Jim at July 29, 2004 12:46 PM (IOwam)
Posted by: RP at July 29, 2004 12:48 PM (LlPKh)
Posted by: Easy at July 29, 2004 01:19 PM (8J9Tj)
Posted by: Dane at July 29, 2004 01:25 PM (ncyv4)
Posted by: Donna at July 29, 2004 01:57 PM (qInxG)
Posted by: Solomon at July 29, 2004 01:58 PM (k1sTy)
Posted by: Helen at July 29, 2004 02:06 PM (pS7+B)
Posted by: Tiffani at July 29, 2004 03:05 PM (xpNFK)
Posted by: Tiffani at July 29, 2004 03:06 PM (xpNFK)
Posted by: Clancy at July 29, 2004 03:28 PM (EGVPL)
Posted by: kalisah at July 29, 2004 03:42 PM (xT4wZ)
Posted by: Drew at July 29, 2004 06:02 PM (CBlhQ)
Posted by: croxie at July 29, 2004 06:08 PM (s153F)
Posted by: bigdocmcd at July 29, 2004 06:47 PM (AkmDD)
Posted by: Solomon at July 29, 2004 06:48 PM (k1sTy)
Posted by: Helen at July 29, 2004 06:55 PM (pS7+B)
Posted by: Helen at July 29, 2004 06:56 PM (pS7+B)
Posted by: Elizabeth at July 29, 2004 08:07 PM (tJZAo)
Posted by: Lily at July 29, 2004 08:41 PM (PuHU/)
Posted by: pylorns at July 29, 2004 09:57 PM (FTYER)
Posted by: Marie at July 30, 2004 02:09 AM (3Y1np)
Posted by: Amber at July 30, 2004 02:15 AM (zQE5D)
Posted by: Amber at July 30, 2004 02:19 AM (zQE5D)
Posted by: Arianne at July 30, 2004 07:34 AM (H5sJr)
35 queries taking 0.0503 seconds, 153 records returned.
Powered by Minx 1.1.6c-pink.