July 13, 2004
First we had each other many years ago, and then we didn't.
When you take a look at the "when we had each other", it all boils down to amazing coincidences, a ladder of things that happened in so precise a way that if they didn't happen, I might not be on this computer in our guest room overlooking Whitney Houston with a bouncy 7 year-old boy downstairs. My lovely Mr. Y might not be clad only in his robe with bed-hair and leaving me coffee kisses on my forehead. I might still be in Sweden, or dead, or any other amazing assortment of possibilities.
When I first met him we were sitting around a large conference table, him looking the epitome of business confidence and generally raising a fuss about any and every item that suited him. I zeroed in on him right away, and noted him not only as a native English speaker, but also as someone that I found very attractive. He was strong, assertive, thoughtful. Ironically, he also remembered me from that meeting-as being someone who was quiet, drank orange soda, and had a funny duck-shaped key ring.
We were friends for a long while, and all of it turned around in one night. In one night, a steamy sort of mystery-novel night in Bangkok, our whole worlds changed, and we both agree that Bangkok was the catalyst, and without it we would likely have never hooked up. In Bangkok at a massive Company X conference we talked. I decided to have a hot bath and go to bed, but he texted me and demanded my attendace at the blow-out bash. I agreed, and in my hotel room realized I only had a tiny pair of panties and a sundress left that were clean, and so flounced downstairs in those.
And when a group of us went bar-hopping later in a cheesy dodgy Thai girl strip bar area, where banks of tourists were, bouncing in business suits, hemp clothes, backpacks and open-mouthed wonder, it all came to a magnificent head in one single movement that-more than anything else in my history-I can confess changed my life.
Mr. Y took my hand as we got out of a taxi and crossed the busy street.
Electric, baby.
I felt the current throb through me so fast that I knew I would just die if he let go of my hand. It was the stuff that those bodice-ripping pirate romance novels are made out of. This one touch made me gasp and catch my breath and feel all fluttery inside.
Flash forward to now, years later. It's with irony that I can say that where I am today all begins with one moment, a moment that includes a text message and my hand being held. There is a lot more that had to come as well-Mr. Y and I developed a method of honesty between us that we call "glasnost", in which we try to never lie or conceal from each other. We learnt how to talk to each other. We learnt how to rely on each other, and for me, that was one of the harder ones.
I think that there isn't a "one" person for us all, more like a handful of people to whom we are ideally suited. I do think that people can be meant to be, in that the person that they really and truly are can only really be revealed when they are with this other person, that the other person is a catalyst of popping the cork out of the fake dating game bottle and letting out the real you, the one that wants to watch tv and eat pizza together.
Ask Mr. Y if we were meant to be, and he replies: "I don't believe in that crap."
Sentimental, my boy.
But now I look at the life I have, and the incredible difference to how I have always worked.
I sleep naked, and under one duvet (I am told that I hog the covers, however I am sure my delicate and dainty nature would preclude any such selfish subconscious actions).
I discuss money.
I don't get angry.
I open up the hinges inside of me and try to scrape out parts of me that will help with his children.
Sometimes it is all so terrifyingly hard-I am new to children and the sensitive territory that surrounds all child-like life, it's with fragile footsteps and worry that I approach them-will I accidentally say or do something that fucks them up the way I got all screwed up? I long for another cat, but that gets the kaibosh from Mr. Y. And dealing with our exes is far from easy on both our sides.
But falling into the study of our little house, the bed, and his heart?
Yeah...that's been easy.
-H.
PS-broadband is working, so late afternoon will see some high-speed surfing and emails!
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