November 30, 2004
After we collected our suitcases, we went out into the world outside the revolving doors. It was a cold world, a world graced with snow flurries, a world that was utterly dark and grey, a world marked with beautiful Christmas decorations that punched light into an otherwise dark day. I hadn't remembered my jobless November last year wrong-it was that dark. It was that cold.
It hurt that much.
A train ride into the city and a jaunt on the tunnelbana (subway) as the snow begins to fly down in earnest and the day comes to a bitter resignation, the light of day never making it to our eyes. I remember so many things, so many places. A restaurant. A bar. A bookshop. A train stop. All so familiar and yet so far away. My former life all suspended in a snowglobe, a tiny capsule that exists only in parts of my memory and heart.
I was so confused. Parts of me felt like I was twisted and torn-how could I return to Sweden, this land that saw me crash and burn? And yet, how could I not come to this world, this country that helped me find love, this country that holds so many happy memories, this country that helped me know what I could stand and what would break me?
We check into our hotel-a lovely fantastic hotel, the Hilton Slussen (although we know it as the Scandic Slussen, before it was bought by the icky Hilton clan). Angus takes me upstairs and we take a nice warm shower. On the bed, he holds me tightly and makes love to me, cherishing me and charging me with what I needed-pure honest support and dedication. We leave the windows in the room open, windows that face several floors of a workplace, and just allow each other's limbs and lips to travel and transplant, to reassure and reacquaint.
We then head into town, to the area that I used to live in for a family dinner, and after that meet Best Friend for drinks in an Irish bar.
I had forgotten how quiet the snowfall makes the world. I had forgotten the grace that you feel when the snow falls on your face and muffles your hearing, the sweet feeling of a flake landing on your lashes and eyebrows. I had forgotten how much I love looking up at the streetlights and watching the silhouette of the flakes polka-dot my sight. I may remember the cold and the dark, but I had lost sight of how clear the snow makes you feel.
I miss the snow.
I really do.
On Sunday we missed the chance to go to Sirup in Odenplan-my favorite Sunday haunt, a restaurant that serves my favorite American Sunday breakfast-as we had to go to my storage unit outside the city. We found our way there, and hiked in the freezing cold to the Shurgard place, a silent Trojan Horse designed to bring me to my knees. When we get inside there is a bit of confusion-a padlock is on my storage unit and my tears bring the staff there to unlock it.
Inside of the unit is my life. A 150 year-old rocking chair, some hockey equipment, some pictures, and 18 boxes. Boxes that represent thoughts, times, feelings, emotions, experiences. We didn't have much time so I hastily plowed through them, looking for what I needed-some boots. Cookbooks. A few pictures. A blanket my great-grandmother sewed for me. A soft throw my grandmother gave me. The pajamas I lived in last winter. An antique street sign I'd found in one of the flats in which I'd lived in Stockholm.
Mostly what I needed was to feel my possessions in my hands again.
There is no therapy that feels that good.
Angus and I carried the selected items back with us to the hotel, then went and bought a few Christmas decorations for the house. We bought lights for the window. A Swedish candelabra for the house to light up the winter nights. Some Greve and Herregard, some of the best Swedish cheese you can get. I thoroughly enjoyed walking around the Christmas markets with my lovely, lovely boy.
I found that I have no problem trying to flex my Swedish muscle-not only am I not remotely uncomfortable speaking Swedish but I actually enjoy it. Maybe since it no longer counts so much I am willing to give it a try. Surprisingly, my Swedish (and Angus') is actually pretty good and I find I understand nearly everything being spoken around me.
Then Angus goes to meet his children Melissa and Jeff for dinner and a movie, and I meet Best Friend for a curry dinner in our favorite usual place and a trip to see The Incredibles. Angus, Best Friend and I meet up in a bar later and sink some drinks before Angus and I go back to the room and pack our things, before having a quickie and falling asleep.
Monday morning is very stressful for me, as all I can think about is getting my girls and making sure they're ok. As I take a train to the airport I look out the window and watch the falling snow. I realize that I love Stockholm, that I will always love Stockholm, but that it hasn't been my home for a long time.
I found a home.
I found a home in Whitney Houston that I want to stay in for a while, while I catch my breath from having the wind knocked out of me by life, while I massage away the marks from being coat hangered by my fate.
Angus and I had a great time in Stockholm, though, and have vowed to go back again soon-to not only consolidate his goods and my goods in the storage unit, but to also dip into our collective boxes and pull out a handful of our former lives and try to merge them together.
And I realized that Stockholm wasn't my enemy-in fact it's a city that I find breathtaking and lovely. It's a city I enjoy and want to go back to. It's a place that I both understand and find incomprehensible. It's not Stockholm that's the problem-it's me.
We plan on going back, and with Angus' help, I will be able to relax and enjoy the city that is called Beauty on Water. It truly is beautiful. It truly is special and wonderful.
As are some of my memories, which I wouldn't trade for anything.
-H.
PS-internet connection to hopefully be up and running on Wednesday! A return to regularly scheduled blogging (and more interesting/frequent posts!) to occur then!
PPS-my girls slept on the end of the bed. Maggie even likes to keep us company and sit in the bathtub while we're in the bathroom. I am so wildly happy and weepy to have them here, I'm like a Hallmark movie pumped up on estrogen.
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