July 12, 2004
And it appears to be true-Jeff was just nervous. He came out of the baggage claim and customs with a dark blue wheelie bag embroidered with aliens and a nervous smile. Mr. Y's face lit up one thousand watts when he saw his son, and it broke my heart just a little bit-that he can't have his son around him all the time. That I don't know what it feels like to have my soul light up at the sight of my child. That Mr. Y has to miss them so much and there is nothing I can do to help.
Once I greeted Jeff, armed with a chidren's oozie juicy drink made with one part blackcurrent juice and twenty parts gelatin, he had a grin for me.
And we have gotten on extraordinarily well since.
Jeff, who is recently 7, is a riot. He's a little handful of 7 year old whirring about and one hundred miles per hour. He's a tiny skinny thing with the apetite of a rugby team, and we have spent masses of time discussing the merits of the Millenium Falcom versus the ship that Darth Vader (whom he calls the Dark Raider) has. That, and we have endlessly discussed the possibility of The Mummy visiting him at night-weirdly, Jeff is very keen to meet the movie monster as, in his words, he has "alot to learn from him".
I tried to scare Jeff when he was being naughty, only it backfired terrifically and now has become an elaborate plan. When he was acting up, I told him I was going to ship him to Germany (not because I am anti-German, but because the plane he was on to Heathrow then was scheduled to go to Germany). Strangely, if you try to scare him, it doesn't work-tell him a monster is coming tonight, and he will reply "Oh. That's very interesting.", which sends me into giggles every time. Somehow, our Germany idea has become a fantastic plan, and now the idea is I will fold him up into a little paper clip, arm him with a day-old newspaper, a half-bottle of warm orange juice, and one single Lego, and ship him to Germany in a box. He loves this plan.
I think he's hilarious.
Saturday night something unusual happened-he wet the bed. He never does this, so Mr. Y was nervous. Did it mean he was unhappy? Had a lot on his mind? Upset? Or just so deeply asleep he couldn't hear his body telling him it had a weighty issue? Jeff was horrified and upset it happened, but Mr. Y and I acted like it was no problem, that we just love washing enormous bulky futon covers and that it was absolutely part of a normal day, and we held our breath last night-but this morning, in a race to get out of bed and in front of Cartoon Network on the plasma, we saw that he was just fine. He likely was just sleeping too deeply.
And I love this, as it means he is not stressed or upset. And all I want is for the kids to love visiting their father, to love being here.
Yesterday we went to Brooklands, a museum of old racing cars and airplanes (including a final resting place for one of the Concords). Jeff and I amused the hell out of ourselves sitting on old BAC 1-11's and pretending to call the attendant for some juice and buiscuits. Today we are off to Portsmouth, to view old warships and try to dodge the heavy pregnant raindrops that tumble out of the sky. Jeff leaves tomorrow for 4 days (before he is back again) to visit his grandparents. He's exhausting, but I love the kid. We sit on the couch, him holding my hand, my foot, or flat out laying on top of me, and watch TV. I get requested to tuck him in.
Again, I know this isn't parenthood. What I am exposed to is the easy part. I know I am not remotely his parent, never will be, and honestly don't want to be. I know being a parent is one million things more, and a lot more difficult, but you can sign me up for a Honey Nut Cheerio smelling hug anyday.
-H.
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