September 15, 2005
Today is your third birthday. You're three today, isn't that amazing? I can't take it in that so much time has passed, and yet absolutely time has passed, and you always remain something I care so much about.
Coincidentally, today is also my father's birthday-he would be your grandpa. Your grandpa and I are closer now than we have ever been in my 31 years, and I have no doubt that he would be sending you loads of presents today and a card full of cash, because that's what he does. I would have liked to have pictures of you holding hands with your grandpa when we would have visited him, holding hands as you wobble your way down Pike's Market. He hasn't always been good with children, but he has changed a lot, and he would love you nearly as much as I do.
Angus' nieces are three, and when I watch them I at last know where you would be in life. You would wake up sleepy in the morning, and kick the day off with some milk. You're using a large, cartoonish knife and fork to eat your meals. You have a sippy cup instead of a bottle. You have your own style, and know what clothes you like and don't like. And oh my gosh, you're potty trained! But let's give me more than 60 seconds notice that you do actually have to go to the bathroom before going, ok? Oh don't worry-I'm not angry darlings.
I promise.
I see you both perfectly, as though you were here. You're a girl and a boy, and I am so sure of that I would bet my life on it. My sweet daughter, you have light brown hair that goes into ringlets and big brown eyes, the Japanese slant just tweaking the very corners of them. You have a kind smile but you are much too stubborn, and you run through tights so fast I'm tempted to keep you in bobby socks forever. You give love in giant fits and bursts and when you explode with kisses I always try to be right there.
My darling boy, you have ash blond hair like your biological father had. You have brown eyes with short lashes, and you are a rather serious little boy. You watch the world a lot and take things in, you ask questions and try to absorb. I love watching you and wondering what's going on in your mind, and if and when some of your questions will come back. Sometimes, I think you know so much more about everything than I do, and I learn from you everyday.
I see you both playing with Angus' nieces too. There are two of them that are 3, and I know they would love playing with you. I see you with them in Angus' Mum's tea house in the back garden, built especially for grandbabies that like to be in their own little tea house. I see you laughing and playing with them, and I see Angus' Mum fussing over you the same as she does over her biological grandbabies.
I miss you, Egg and Bacon. I miss you all the time. I can't believe you were once a part of me and then were gone, and even though you are gone I continue to love you and remember you. Angus and I are seeing a doctor again to try to have a baby, and when I go there and see the pictures of the newborns on the walls I think of you two, and wish you were here so badly it makes me ache. If you get a chance, maybe you can go visit the Baby Pool and try to decide who it is you want for a brother or sister, and maybe together we can make it happen. They will never, ever replace you-you two are in my heart until I die, and even then I won't let go of you.
I know that you are somewhere beautiful and wonderful, maybe more fun than watching Tweenies on the TV while decked out in your pajamas with me, more lovely than the garden with the cats surrounded by my sweet peas growing riot. I hope that my grandfather (your great-grandpa) is there watching out for you. He doesn't say much, but his love is deep inside of him, part of his backbone and his strength. When you're older you'll meet a nice man named Kim-he's not good with children unless they're old enough for adventure, so you'll meet him when it's time to go white water rafting in heaven.
This morning I would have gone into your rooms and welcomed you from your tiny beds with kisses and cuddles. I would laugh and tickle you and tell you Happy Birthday, and we would talk about the birthday party you would have on Saturday. And even though Angus and I both despair of birthday parties, we'd have the video camera out and the digital camera would be whirring away. You'd have whatever dinner you wanted tonight, and I would spend my day thinking: My God, my babies are three. They're growing so fast I can't believe it.
Today I will go into work and work. I will do my usual household chores and I will have my conference calls. I will spend an ordinary day, and I will be missing you even more than I usually do, and I will try to see you laughing and giggling around me, trying to pick up Maggie or snuggling with a worn-out stuffed animal at nap time.
So happy third birthday, my beautiful babies. I love you so much. Mommy is being very silly and is sitting here typing and crying a river for you two, and I'm crying because I love you and I miss you and I hold you as deeply in my heart as anything ever could be.
I wish you were here so much. I wish my pregnancy had gone to term and I could have seen your faces, held you, and started our lives together. But I promise you I'm not angry, I could never be angry with you, and so on your birthday I will light candles for you both and tell you only this-
A mother's love can start from day one.
And for some it never goes away.
Happy birthday, and I love you.
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