September 28, 2005
The stereotype is that men forget the romance and get lazy in the routine.
The truth is women do, too.
I've been striding along in my lane, keeping the movement soft and strong, and realized that although life is stressful, it doesn't mean I should ignore my surroundings just because I am trying to run so fast. Passing out in bed from exhaustion every night does not a relationship make. Holding hands over a dinner table won't matter if the dinner table is littered with work documents. So last weekend was a weekend where my mobile phone was on mute. I stayed out of my work emails. I ignored the world.
And it was great.
We spent ages in bed. I went to yoga class wondering if anyone could see my enormous hickey gracing the connection of my neck and my shoulder, revealed by my sports bra. We found our way back to spending ages just kissing, and in kissing, I found out that I had missed it terribly.
We went on a date. We took showers and got nicely dressed and went to a restaurant nearby called the County Arms. The matron was bright and friendly and the little pub was packed with folk easing off the stress of their weeks. We drank red wine and laughed and talked about our days, straying from ideas of work or stress. We shared a dessert tray of ice cream and berries. Our eyes twinkled as we looked at each other again, and I fell back in love with that twinkling feeling.
We had a lovely evening.
And it came to pass that I realized: Dates aren't just for 16 year olds. You can grow old gracefully, but you can do it going out and spending time together. Something about going out and enjoying the presence of your loved one in the company of others is so gratifying it's like a drug. Hey, see this person I am laughing a lot with? Yeah. He's mine and he's great.
And on Sunday we spent the afternoon together. It was time for a hedge trimming, so my personal Picasso got out his barber kit and did some pelvic gardening (and here's something we found-this site is the number one hit on Google for "shave beaver shape". Truly, I've found fame.) We then drank champagne in bed and I read him a quote from Louis de Bernieres who says it better than I ever could:
Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion...That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. [We] had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.
Looking forward to another date this weekend, babe.
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