December 05, 2005
Yesterday we had a Christmas lunch in a posh place with Angus' extended family. Little nieces ran around with bows in hair and shiny patent leather shoes striking the marble floors. Big smiles lit up small faces at the prospect of roast beef, Yorkshire puddings, and chocolate mousse. Brothers got helpings of roast beef from the enormous hunk of bovine on the counter, smothered in horseradish, mustard, and dreams of an afternoon nap.
I walked through the hallway after the lunch, my short heels ringing along the marbled halls. I felt cold and pulled my shrug closer around my shoulders. I stopped in front of a long gilded mirror hanging in one of the hallways. I reached a finger out to run my hand over the grooved sides-it was cold to the touch and made me feel even more chilled. In the mirror two green eyes looked back, boring holes into the glassy surface. The hair, the makeup, the vintage 1920's earrings...they looked fine. But when the eyes travelled down they picked up the body of someone comparable to a pack animal. I was filled with flaws, the desperate look of someone that needed to starve themselves, and do it well, and do it long.
And I felt the edge of the ledge at the tip of my toe.
And I ran my toe along it, wondering what was on the other side of the precipice.
Melissa has been visiting us this weekend. She's been great company, as she and I watch Extreme Home Makeover and relax on the couch. We talk about movies. She borrows my clothes. For the Christmas lunch, every single item she's wearing apart from the bra, knickers and tights are mine-the jewelry, clothes, shoes and coat are all mine-and I am somehow deeply touched and flattered and happy that she wants to borrow my clothes. She puts on some of my makeup and twinkles my earrings. She smiles at me and we talk and I am a mix between an older sister and a friend with some degree of authority and I love where our relationship is. I toe the edge of the ledge, and hold in my heart the good feeling that we are ok, that we are doing fine right now, just before the edge of her ledge where she hauls herself through the turbulent upper teen years.
That night, after we'd dropped Melissa off at the airport with a box stuffed with Christmas presents and a big hug (for both of us!) I was rewarded with a long Lush bath and a sensual massage from Angus, complete with champagne and "the extra service". My body soft and smooth from ylang ylang, we sipped wine downstairs in our lounge, and still the edge of the ledge was just there.
I have a deadline of some work things to do, so I briefly log in and take care of them. As I go through the motions of the world I would rather not inhabit, I realize that I do the work with dread in my soul. I don't enjoy the work, and even though I love my project team, even their company is not enough to keep me in this work for any longer than I have to be. The edge of the ledge grows menacing as little pebbles slide off the top, my toes making their way off.
My father rang and when we spoke his mood was high. My sister had finally deigned to speak to him after many, many months of ignoring him. My father had been bereft at her completely blanking him, and I have to be honest-as I had told my therapist, while I felt bad for my father, I didn't mind that she was ignoring him. For the first time in my life I had a parent that was "mine". I had someone that wanted to talk to me. I was a favorite, and the only time I've ever been the favorite was by my beloved grandfather, who left us in 1999. So yes-I hurt for my father, but the truth is, I loved that I was finally an ok child, I was finally walking away from the fences I used to throw myself against to get their affection. My father tells me, happily, that they spoke. I refrain from the biter torrent in my mind (Why did she pick up the phone? What-she needed money again?) and simply tell him that I am happy for him. And I am. He's happy, so I am happy, but that edge of the ledge reminded me that it was just there, just there, waiting.
Christmas is coming and I love Christmas with all my heart. Last year I had a deep feeling of disconnect with the holidays and this year I am determined to avoid that. I have stories and blog posts about Christmas churning in my head, things I want to write but just need to set aside the time to do so. With every sleigh bell, every red ribbon, every twinkly light I look up and am so amazingly grateful for Christmastime it makes me want to decorate the edge of my ledge with tinsel and sing O Holy Night at the top of my lungs.
I sleep in a warmed and lovely bed with Angus, and that night I dream anxiety dreams about his ex (who is my least favorite person in the world, but I imagine that's mutual). I also dream that Kim is alive, alive and looking for me, and when he finds me I see Angus has packed his bag and is walking away, only I go chasing after him and tell him that I choose him, that I would choose him, that I do choose him.
Because I would choose him.
And I wake up and the edge of the ledge is there, only it's a calming feeling I have.
The edge of the ledge is not scary, it's just a ledge, maybe it only scares me as I just don't know what's on the other side.
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