December 13, 2007
I like these times with the babies. Although last week they weren't exactly the most well-behaved (but since it's a showing exclusively for parents of babies and toddlers we weren't alone), in general they sleep through the film, sometimes on my lap, sometimes in their car seat, and for Nick he slept on my chest for a short while as I wept my way through August Rush, complete with me promising that if he was ever taken from my I would find him no matter what (how about them hormones, huh?)
Ironically, I feel sheer panic at the concept of going to the films with the babies. I can't explain it, but although I look forward to going so much, I also have to make myself go. I get nervous and shaky and only calm down once we're in the theatre, then I'm so calm I'm sure my blood pressure registers "dead".
Tonight is another first, too. Tonight I'm leaving the twins with Angus and heading up to London to meet with my former team members from work. I haven't been to London on my own since August, which both is and isn't a big deal - I used to go weekly, and now I don't go. I think it'll overwhelm me, especially since the damn grocery store can overwhelm me still.
The health visitor came round for the babies 10 week check-up on Tuesday. I can't believe the babies are 10 weeks old. Developmentally we're still behind - they're not really smiling and they're still tiny babies, but at least they're both at 8lb 13oz, so we're getting there. But they were pronounced healthy and happy.
Both Nick and Nora are being referred to an eye specialist though, for although babies go a bit cross-eyed and lack the muscle tone to manage their eyes, there is a family history on Angus' side of what they call over here a squint (Stateside, I think it's called a wandering eye.) Angus had it and had surgery when he was 3, which is why to this day he has no depth perception and can't catch a ball thrown at him to save his life. The condition is genetic, and can be passed down.
Nora's eyes look fine but Nick definitely has it - what's more problematic is that both of his eyes seem to focus and track things, but they do it differently (which is a bit disconcerting, as you never know which eye to look into when talking to him.) It may go away on its own but they'll watch him and decide if he needs surgery or not.
I also got an exam, including a very bizarre quiz I had to take to assess if I feel post-natal depression or not (one question: "I feel like self-harming myself". I checked the big no on that one, and actually smiled as I thought about all that I've left behind.) Apparently I'm borderline for PND, as I agreed that I do feel guilty when things go wrong (because I do) and I feel responsible for everything (because I do that, too). So they're going to keep an eye on me, although they're confident PND will go away.
I'm confident it will be kept at bay, too. In general since deciding to get my voice back and be more responsible for my own happiness, I've been in a much, much better place. More confident, more opinionated. People around me seem to like it more, and Angus has what feels like a renewed sense of respect for me, as at last I'm taking the reins on my life.
The health visitor thinks going out with my colleagues tonight is a good idea. I'm not going to get drunk and I'm not staying late, but I am going. I've vacillated so much on if I should go or not, but go I shall. I think it's good I get out of the little cocoon I've built myself in the house and get back to real life, even if my real life now contains two tiny little people who are currently fast asleep on the bean bag.
I can't wait till the movies today.
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