Time marches on. The babies are now 3.5 months old, and even though we're only just fitting into size 0-3, they are growing and I know that any attempt to fight it will be like tilting windmills on a whole new scale. And I never much liked windmills anyway, so why charge at them? What'd they ever do to me?
In the past week the babies have started hitting milestones left and right. We're still behind developmentally on most things, although they are doing things in their age group as well. Nora is more advanced physically while Nick has you covered in the other areas. I like to think we're the yin and yang of babyhood here, but then again I'm full of shit.
She's started blowing spit bubbles, and needs far less burping than before. Although we don't have 16 hours of collicky screaming these days, it's not to say we don't have any. We had an hour of it yesterday that nearly saw me come unglued, worried as I was that we were returning to the days of The Scream. I can't take that anymore. Should it come to that, I will most definitely need medicating of the anti-psychotic variety because I can't take the collicky days for another minute. I'm hopeful the marathon screaming days are over, but Nora remains a very difficult child - although her smiles are enormous and when she's in a great mood she's an absolute dream, she can be very aggressive and angry. Her first impulse at everything is to cry and shout and I'm hopeful that time breaks her of that. She's taken to sucking her thumb to fall asleep, which I know a lot of people will have a problem with but I'm ok about - I'll happily pay for braces someday if it means an end to her screaming today (see: medication. See also: Mummy loses her mind).
Nick is less adept at all things physical, he still has very wonky control of his neck muscles so the Bumbo and the high chair are out. He does sleep on his side most of the time, even though he's always put down on his back. He managed to flip himself onto his stomach on his play gym yesterday, but that too was a one-off and seemed to freak him out a lot. I noticed him reaching for hanging toys today, his hand curled into a fist, and he likes to beat the crap out of them like his aggressive sister.
Nick's first reaction at anything is to smile, which makes everyone worship at his feet. If you talk to him while he's smiling he kicks his feet furiously in excitement. He babbles constantly, and we have pretend conversations with him:
Me: "You're working on what? Resuscitating Britney Spears career? Not going to happen, babe, but sweet of you to try."
It's a fun game. He makes noises all the time and I love that he does that.
Both babies sleep through the night, all night every night (since returning from holiday, anyway. On holiday sleeping was hell. Let us not speak of that.) They go to bed anywhere from 10:30-11:30 and wake up about 8:30. They no longer get swaddled but sleep in Grobags, which are some of the greatest inventions in the world. If you're looking for other good ideas, I came across Baby Snugglers, created by two moms here in the UK. They're amazing, dead easy to use, very comfortable for the babies, and now they get strapped into them whenever we leave the house. Also, they make them look like Smurfs and I can't tell you how amusing I find that.
And while I'm pimping products that I have found and love, can I just say that I am so glad I bought this and pushed it into action? I'm sentimental. I love that I'll be able to look back on the holidays with them someday. And yes, each baby has their own baby book that I fill out for them, complete with photos, because I am a softie like that.
Neither baby can hold their head up at all while on their stomach, which is something they should've been able to do several weeks ago. We do tummy time, which is where you put them on the floor on their stomach to work their neck muscles - you dangle toys, talk to them, have mirrors they can look in. However my children's reaction is to shout with a "Fuck you and your toys, lady. We hate the tummy time." and we invariably flip them back over after about 10 minutes of ear-bleeding screaming.
The biggest and greatest milestone is suddenly the babies have started looking at each other. Strange but true, they've been together in one form or another for almost 12 months now, but once born they couldn't seem to see each other even if they spent their time moving towards one another when placed in the same bed. Put one in front of the other and they'd just avoid eye contact. But while in Seattle last week, suddenly Nora was looking at Nick and grinning (OK, he was screaming at the time which makes her an unkind chick, but it was nice to see her looking at him.) And yesterday he started looking at her. The babies finally exist to each other, which seemed to take a long time. I wonder at what point they'll start talking - "Listen, Nick, you didn't have to spend your time in utero kicking me in the head." "Oh yeah, Nora? Well that's what you get for squishing me into Mom's pelvis and hogging all the good nutrients!" I figure as long as no one retorts with a "Yo Mama!" we'll be ok.
So developmentally the babies are doing things anywhere from 11 weeks-15 weeks. As they were 4 weeks premature that means...actually I don't have a clue what that means. We are where we are, and we don't stress over it.
I have had some heartbreak, though.
My babies are still tiny but they're long babies and they're babies that have worked out how to scoot around. As a result, the crib that they were sharing was beginning to not work anymore as even though we would put them down seperately, they'd move towards each other everytime, and if one of them would wake up they'd kick the other awake. The babies have been together every time they slept more or less, apart from Nick's stint in Special Care and the periodic Nora Colic Screaming fit that Nick couldn't sleep next to, but now the time had come to erect the second crib and seperate them.
Yesterday, I put the crib together.
My babies are growing, and although I sometimes miss the days when they slept all day (thereby freeing me up to, you know, breathe) I love all the new things they're doing.
-H.
PS-I am reliably told that this week is De-Lurking Week. Since I'm in the weeds in both dealing with emails and blogging (I lost all my bookmarks while we were away, so my apologies), I would understand if you wanted to cold-shoulder me. But if you would like to say hi in honor of De-Lurking Day (I have my own rules here, why do in a week what we can do in one day?), it would be nice to know who's out there, reading.
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First... I'm so delurking! I'm the queen of delurking, to tell the truth :- )
You still impress me on a daily basis, so hold on to the small things!
Lily
Posted by: lily at January 18, 2008 11:31 AM (Y8m4l)
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I'll happily de-lurk. Have been out here reading for ages so nice to finally say HI! Like many other people your writing is one of my 'small things'. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and journey. The wee ones are the best!
Posted by: Mas at January 18, 2008 11:53 AM (UGBIN)
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Your wish is my command - thanks for sharing!
Posted by: Tarantulady at January 18, 2008 12:02 PM (ipvGd)
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Not de-lurking as I comment all the time. However, please note that the blog link actually goes to a blog now.
Posted by: ~Easy at January 18, 2008 12:23 PM (XD24A)
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Not de-lurking :-p, but figured I'd say "hey lady I'm still reading".
Posted by: Angela at January 18, 2008 12:41 PM (DGWM7)
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It's me here...you know...Have a good day...
Posted by: mitzi at January 18, 2008 12:44 PM (cB5ML)
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Hi, delurking! I am a long longtime reader from Germany and love reading you but never leave a comment. I loved reading before you had the babies and since I am a fairly new mother too, I was delighted to read about your pregnancy and the twins. So no worries about being a mommy blogger (for some time)!!
Posted by: Anne at January 18, 2008 12:50 PM (lQrkQ)
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Hi, delurking! I am a long longtime reader from Germany and love reading you but never leave a comment. I loved reading before you had the babies and since I am a fairly new mother too, I was delighted to read about your pregnancy and the twins. So no worries about being a mommy blogger (for some time)!! Anne
Posted by: Anne at January 18, 2008 12:53 PM (lQrkQ)
Posted by: Suzie at January 18, 2008 01:18 PM (weSjv)
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Hello from Ohio! I start my mornings by checking your blog. I have three children - the youngest will be two on January 30th so I love hearing about the babies, I miss mine being tiny. Even a world away mothers have the same problems and worries for their children.
Posted by: Kerisa at January 18, 2008 01:23 PM (PsyC+)
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Hi, delurking - has it really been a year since the last one? Things have changed so much for you (less so for me). Hope you have seen the last of Nora's colic for all your sakes...
Posted by: Anna at January 18, 2008 01:39 PM (sQt7w)
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de-lurking... an avid reader from Hong Kong.
Posted by: 3e at January 18, 2008 01:45 PM (uG/6d)
Posted by: ~Easy at January 18, 2008 01:46 PM (IVGWz)
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Delurking from Toronto, Canada. Been lurking for years. My baby is now almost 8, and, believe me, the crying and the stress go by so quickly you'll hardly remember it. It just seems endless and unbearable when you're in the thick of it. All the best to you & Angus & babes.
Posted by: Tracy at January 18, 2008 01:46 PM (Yj2qM)
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Just dropping in to say hi and congratulations. I've been following you for years -- I am sure you can appreciate how far you've come, but even I'm amazed at how much I'm still addicted to your stories. Thank you for pouring out your heart on these pages and letting us grow with you!
Posted by: dawn at January 18, 2008 01:51 PM (HT2EY)
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Delurking from Maryland. I absolutely love your blog: your honesty, your intelligence, your infinite wit, and your insightful observations of life. You rock and thank you for what you share. You are an inspiration!
Posted by: Sue at January 18, 2008 01:59 PM (h2wrz)
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I love the fish in the window and the tutu is precious! Also, I need to get me one of those holiday books!
Posted by: oddybobo at January 18, 2008 02:00 PM (mZfwW)
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Just a heads-up— when they start to talk, twins often develop "twinspeak", which is their own private language. It's perfectly normal. Also, when they begin speaking normal English you'll be able to tell which is the dominant twin because the other will tend to say "we" instead of "I".
I have a friend who worked on a "multiples" magazine for years. She's full of info.
Posted by: B. Durbin at January 18, 2008 02:00 PM (tie24)
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I'm still here, every day, cheering you on and amazed at your insight.
Posted by: BeachGirl at January 18, 2008 02:13 PM (RgeoX)
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Delurking from Idaho! I comment every once in a while but read you every day.
Good luck with the babies......it goes by so fast. My two boys are 10 and 7 and it just feels like yesterday that they were babies.
Posted by: Kali at January 18, 2008 02:13 PM (AoQfq)
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Still here, reading every day!
Posted by: Heather at January 18, 2008 02:15 PM (s0rhn)
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Delurking from California. Long time reader, first time commenter. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I think you have a beautiful gift to be able to express yourself in writing as you do!
Posted by: jacque at January 18, 2008 02:18 PM (mRsH1)
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I'm not a lurker but I'll say hi! The fairy wings are so beautiful.
Those babies are so amazing. I can't get over the fact that they are already over 3 months old...
Posted by: donna at January 18, 2008 02:23 PM (Kco5r)
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I'm not a lurker but I'll say hi! The fairy wings are beautiful. I wish I had a set.
Those babies are so amazing. I can't get over the fact that they are already over 3 months old...
Posted by: donna at January 18, 2008 02:25 PM (Kco5r)
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I'm not a lurker, but I'll leave the comment-y love anyway.
I cannot get over those babies! What a pair! Do they make those fairy wings in my size?
Posted by: donna at January 18, 2008 02:28 PM (Kco5r)
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Ok, so I am not exactly lurking just not commenting. I must go find Evan a baby book now, if you can do two I can do one.
Posted by: Kathy at January 18, 2008 02:29 PM (U1Ib2)
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I'm a big fan of yours, Helen. Thanks for letting me share your journey through your beautiful writing.
Posted by: Catherine at January 18, 2008 02:36 PM (1TwTf)
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Hi! I'm reading you from Burleson, Texas. I like your blog very much. I'm so happy for you having twins because I'm a twin too. I can tell you are enjoying them every minute. That is good. They grown so fast.
Posted by: PrimoDonna at January 18, 2008 02:37 PM (CXFLl)
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You're still the first blog I go to every day!! I can't believe how fast the babes are growing... thanks for sharing the updates!
Camino
Posted by: Çamino at January 18, 2008 02:49 PM (97jrp)
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Still here, still worshippiing at your feet every single day! Dont ever stop baby blogging I adore it.
Cheryl
Posted by: Cheryl at January 18, 2008 02:55 PM (n3lCA)
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I just love the colors of your nursery! It looks so happy and bright in there! Glad the babes are sleeping through the night!
Posted by: Tracey at January 18, 2008 02:55 PM (jgdKP)
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De-lurking seems a reasonable enough request. I've been following you for a few months now. Your babies were born right around the same time as my son, and I like to read your blog and exclaim "Baby Boy does that too!" As if maybe our three children are the only ones sitting in Bumbos or declining tummy time.
Posted by: Jillian at January 18, 2008 03:01 PM (n8XnF)
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Hi Helen, I read you every day. Love your blog, love your babies, love you all! My babies are all grown up but I get to relive those days (without actually having to experience them) when I read your blog - thank you for your wonderful writing.
Posted by: Karen at January 18, 2008 03:05 PM (wGsq1)
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Hi! I comment sometimes, and I just love reading your story. Thank you so much for sharing with us.
Posted by: Meredith at January 18, 2008 03:08 PM (S/zIM)
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Hi there! Delurking from Eugene, Oregon. I read you every day, but tend to get shy about commeting... Love your blog, and have really appreciated your honest and lovely writing this year as I have tried to get pregnant myself...
Happy 3.5 mo's!
Stephanie
Posted by: stephanie at January 18, 2008 03:10 PM (eEi99)
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Delurking from the deep South, USA. Read your blog first thing every morning! My grandson, who screamed almost to Nora's standards, also HATED tummy time. When he learned to roll over on his own, he liked it much better--guess because HE did it.
Posted by: patndixie at January 18, 2008 03:11 PM (atQwv)
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Not delurking, since I comment pretty frequently.
Love the fairy outfit! Before you know it, you'll be sharing pictures of Nora in it. The cribs look great, and I can imagine them reaching out to each other through the bars when they figure out that hand-eye coordination thing.
Posted by: Amanda at January 18, 2008 03:13 PM (ay+rD)
Posted by: wRitErsbLock at January 18, 2008 03:37 PM (+MvHD)
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Not de-lurking, just the normal visit.
Just letting you know I'm having surgery on Monday, so if I don't get around for a bit, that's why...
It always amazes me how quickly they grow up. My four are 32 to 24 and I STILL remember the days they were tiny. Goodness... I am not any older, right? How can THEY be?
Happy days, Helen. Enjoy! {{hugs}}
Posted by: sue at January 18, 2008 03:40 PM (WbfZD)
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Still reading. I've given up on e-mailing you though!
Posted by: Jen(aside) at January 18, 2008 03:53 PM (f7Hde)
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Delurking to say how much I enjoy your writing. Thanks for sharing!
Posted by: Sarah at January 18, 2008 03:56 PM (xB/ZV)
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I can't believe they're already close to four months already. Jesus. Time flies. Seriously.
Posted by: statia at January 18, 2008 03:59 PM (lHsKN)
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Hello from the Midlands! I'm always here reading and soaking up the commentary. Just never feel like I have anything profound to say and I don't think 'Ditto' on the back of someone else's comment would cut it. Anyway, I'm trying to keep a low profile these days as I go through my latest (and last, for now) round with the Home Office (ILR, wahoo!).
Thanks for being here and sharing your life with us.
Posted by: tanis at January 18, 2008 04:03 PM (6cH2N)
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Mommies are so bossy. Delurking to say hello to a wonderful writer and a woman of courage and integrity.
MissKelly
Posted by: MissKelly at January 18, 2008 04:05 PM (AMZ9n)
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Hello from snowy Nebraska! I'm a grandmother and your blog recalls old memories.
Posted by: Annette at January 18, 2008 04:13 PM (Y6Wv4)
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Long time reader from California saying hello! Love the blog, the babies are adorable. I appreciate your honesty and frankness while writing about real life, you are truly a talented writer.
Posted by: kim at January 18, 2008 04:23 PM (VKX/O)
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I'm commented a few times, but to make it official - Hello from Minnesota! I'm currently seven months pregnant with identical twins and reading your blog and seeing how you deal with two, the tips and tricks, have meant the world to me. I have several posts bookmarked even!
Posted by: erinErin at January 18, 2008 04:49 PM (xgPLZ)
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I would like to lick the person who invented Grobags. After swaddling failed to contain the Prawn, we were wondering what the hell we were going to do as she obviously spends her nights fighting off imaginary lions. She has been in Grobags since 3 months as isn't getting out of them anytime soon!
By the way, I also have a Prawn-centric blog at http://rockmama14.blogspot.com. I cross post sometimes with Blogapotamus, but it's definitely all about her.
Posted by: blogapotamus at January 18, 2008 04:58 PM (S0yID)
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Hi from Ohio..I love reading your blog.I have left comments before,but I think its been awhile.Glad that you and the babies are doing good.
Posted by: Erica at January 18, 2008 04:59 PM (AZFra)
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Hello from Ohio! Delurking to say that I've really enjoyed reading both this site and your other one. Best of luck this year to you, Angus, and the babies. And Gorby, of course. And Melissa and Jeff. I think that covers everyone.
Posted by: Sarah at January 18, 2008 05:01 PM (ifhg+)
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Still here and reading every day.Good to hear the babies are sleeping thru the night.
Posted by: butterflies at January 18, 2008 05:03 PM (eWiSy)
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Considering that I have left more comments (infrequent as they may be) on your blog, than anywhere else on earth, I don't know that I'm still considered a lurker. But. . . Hi, Helen!! I'm admiring and enjoying you find your way around the hairpin curves of new motherhood. The babies are sooooo beautiful. . . and so are you. I wish you peace and joy, every day.
Posted by: Deb at January 18, 2008 05:03 PM (GOFVL)
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I'll raise my hand and de-lurk too. I've been reading your writings for a bit now -- my daughter was colic too (she is now
, so, I get it!
My best to you and your family!
Chris
Posted by: Christina at January 18, 2008 05:04 PM (DZPwC)
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Hey-o from Cali.
Still here, still feel ya! ...and not in a creepy way, of course. heh.
Posted by: cHRISTINA at January 18, 2008 05:09 PM (b4jrh)
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Aww, it's a milestone-a-minute, sometimes. They are growing so fast! I bet it will be no time at all before they are found pressed up against the bars as close together as possible, each with an arm through the bars to touch the other. I love that you stuck the two cribs close enough together to allow this. Shows how very in touch you are. The nursery is wonderfully cheerful; one of my favorite details is the hardware on the windows! The curlicues remind me of elf shoes.
Happy Delurking Day, I will admit I am enjoying "meeting" all these new people in your comments.
I read the comments as if they were part of the posts and will admit to coming back more than once to see what someone else had to say. I suppose this makes me a bit of a lurker so I'm now delurking. Hehe. Nice to be getting to know you all! Thanks Helen.
You give great parties. Have a great day; I hope you get hundreds of comments.
Posted by: Lisa at January 18, 2008 05:12 PM (EcHBm)
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Delurking to say hello. Long time reader, infrequent poster with b/g twins three months older than Nick and Nora. Don't worry about the disdain for tummy time - both of mine hated it too and now they are both rolling from front to back, back to front, and hanging out on their tummies, trying to figure out how to crawl - I really can't believe it.
Love your blog, and if you ever want a peak into what the next few months hold for the babes, drop me a line.
Posted by: Jeannine at January 18, 2008 05:14 PM (NzjX3)
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Delurking from Phoenix, Arizona. I am struggling myself with fertility issues and I came across your blog via your flickr site. Reading about your babies is comfort to me and you really keeo it real. I know that is cliché, but you right very honestly and I appreciate that.
Posted by: Laura Anne at January 18, 2008 05:14 PM (hEwYk)
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Hello from Hawaii! I have been reading you for about almost 2 years, commenting maybe 4 times in those years!! You are one of the first sites I visit in the morning over a bowl of cereal. No worries about the baby post's, I have two kids 7 and 5 and another one on the way. Woo Hoo kids!
Love your writing and Happy De-Lurking Day!
Oh, congrats on Nora's quietness!
Posted by: Bonnie at January 18, 2008 05:38 PM (ri1ak)
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Hi!
I,too, have been reading your blog since you conceived your little darlings. We were due around the same time. My twins (identical boys) were born on Sept. 9, 5 weeks early. We are looking at similar milestones and it is such fun! Our boys, too, have just discovered each other....crazy. We have a 5 year old boy, too. I know how hard it is to write, but feel free to connect if you ever need a pal in the trenches.
Thank you for your wonderful blog!
Peace and calm,
Alissa
Posted by: Alissa at January 18, 2008 06:04 PM (Ymi3X)
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delurking here, although i have commented maybe 2 or 3 times. i check in with your blog on a daily basis. i began reading it about 3 1/2 years ago via an ex-boyfriend joey (i can't quite remember how he found you) and i am hooked!! you are a terrific writer, i just don't see how you have the time with your family, pets, and other obligations!! as long as you continue to write, i will continue to read! :0)
Posted by: deborah at January 18, 2008 06:19 PM (piMxm)
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Hi. I am Stacie from California, and I read your blog daily. I have posted a few times, but I am delurking anyway!
I also have twins. They are still in the hospital (they were born at 28 weeks), but I hope to have them home any day now!
Posted by: stacie at January 18, 2008 06:31 PM (dZ+qK)
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Hi! I think I've left a comment or two. But I'll delurk for today.
I'm from California and I've been reading for at least 3 or 4 years, (who can remember that far back?)
Love your blog.
Oh, and your babies? They are too cute!
grace
Posted by: grace at January 18, 2008 06:33 PM (8OGiU)
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Big fan of yours from previous blogging. Delurking to say you make beautiful babies! Thank you for sharing yor rough road and your smooth road with strangers. Your experience has taught me many things.
Posted by: Cori at January 18, 2008 06:59 PM (wGDlm)
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Admittedly, I've been lurking when it comes to the babies, though I've certainly commented other times. I don't have to add that's not along the "awww, cute!" and "you're a great mom, they're lucky to have you" lines, though I toss those out whenever I think they're good.
I love reading your blog and have done for... I don't know how many years now. I don't know why, I just enjoy your writing and continually root for you. Good luck with everything!
Posted by: Hannah at January 18, 2008 07:09 PM (lUH62)
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Delurking. Also from Phoenix, Arizona. I have no idea how I found your blog, only that I've been reading it for several months now and really enjoy it.
Which is kind of weird because (at this point, at least) we have very little in common. Guess I just like you. And your writing.
Posted by: Amy at January 18, 2008 07:09 PM (WutUv)
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Delurking. I've got a new son, eight weeks old. Honestly don't know how parents of multiples cope (I know, you just do). My youngest brother and sister are twins, born 6 weeks early. My sister sounds a lot like your Nora - she was a 'difficult' baby, angry, agressive toddler. Now she is the most charming, funny, rebellious, free-thinking 15 year-old. And totally in love with her new nephew.
Posted by: anna at January 18, 2008 07:12 PM (nlREt)
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Hello,
Another delurking here. I've very much enjoyed reading your blog over the last year. I first became hooked via your other blog; I'm struggling to get pregnant, had a miscarriage, blah blah and found a lot of solace in listening to your story. You're really a wonderful writer so please keep up the great work! It's definitely a 'small thing' I look forward to each day.
-Sarah
Posted by: Sarah at January 18, 2008 07:19 PM (fJpeI)
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My Oldest had a screaming hour for about a month when she was 3 months old. Nothing we could do would make her stop crying. The doctor told us it was her way of decompressing after taking in so much stuff during the day and what she was really saying was "I need a BEER!". She would always start at 6pm on the dot.
Posted by: Amy at January 18, 2008 07:24 PM (VxnWV)
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Delurking, too. I started reading your other blog the month I was going through IVF treatments. You were in the hospital giving birth and I was waiting to test. You gave birth and I found out I was pregnant! You went home with two babies and I found out I was having twins! So I read your blog voraciously to find out what's next in my reproductive and parental life. Thanks for being so generous to your readers.
Posted by: Erika Bailey at January 18, 2008 07:34 PM (jDrc6)
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I lurk all the time. Would you consider me a vocal lurker?
Posted by: diamond dave at January 18, 2008 08:25 PM (lvxeX)
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I'm glad Nora has (mostly) outgrown the colic - you have a tough job as a mommy of twins, and you're doing it so well!
Posted by: Suze at January 18, 2008 08:42 PM (ZgwzU)
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AS always I enjoy your posts
Posted by: ethansmama at January 18, 2008 09:18 PM (6ooUu)
Posted by: Uccellina at January 18, 2008 09:24 PM (emYvd)
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I don't lurk, but I don't want to be left out either.
Almost 4 months? Holy hell, time has flown!!!
Posted by: Teresa at January 18, 2008 09:43 PM (e1fP6)
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I comment occasionally but read every day.
Most places I go online, I am just part of the background. I suppose I can live with that...
Posted by: justdawn at January 18, 2008 10:04 PM (PDbRw)
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Fuck developmental milestones. Seriously. As my little screaming mimi (like Nora, screamed for three months) was 4 weeks early as well, I always subtracted four weeks. Tummy time is a bastard, P never liked it either. Granted, she also had reflux and whenever put on her stomach would vomit, so...consequently she wasn't great at neck and upper body strength. Today she is an energetic, running, jumping, climbing trees (not really, that's an Eddie Izzard thing) 18 month old. Her head doesn't loll about aimlessly or anything sinister like that.
It's a huge cliche, but they all develop at their own pace. Plus you've got that whole -4 weeks thing on your side!
Posted by: MsPrufrock at January 18, 2008 10:24 PM (1NDGw)
Posted by: rosy at January 18, 2008 11:03 PM (bEVc/)
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daily reader, infrequent commenter....i adore your blog.
glad to hear that Nora's colic is calming down. my sister (also a Nora) had horrific colic, so i know what a toll it can take.
anxious to hear how the babes fare in their seperate cribs. . i'm sure it must be difficult to reach this stage.
i love the product recommendations too -- keep them coming! i need all the help i can get in that regard right now.
Posted by: megan at January 18, 2008 11:16 PM (1O5Qi)
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I'm still here! I think I want that tutu too. For me :-)
Posted by: Vita at January 18, 2008 11:21 PM (sQEH6)
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Daily reader...absolutely amazing your journey has been!
Posted by: Steff at January 19, 2008 12:32 AM (dicdr)
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have been reading awhile--congratulations on the twins. you have an amazing way with words! really enjoyable to read(even the bad stuff!).
Posted by: kate at January 19, 2008 12:57 AM (wPJgs)
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Hiya, as always I am here. If I was only allowed to read one blog ever, then it would be yours.
Posted by: Fleat at January 19, 2008 01:05 AM (eoquk)
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I look forward to hearing about your adventures in life. Thank you for sharing your precious moments.
Posted by: angel at January 19, 2008 01:09 AM (UZtDr)
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Hi *waves* I comments maybe 50% of the time? Sorry about that.
Nora reminds me so much of my daughter, with the screaming and the angriness and just the general high-maintainence of her. Around 12mths old, Amy became like a different person and now she is a pretty laid back Toddler and lovely to be around.
Looking forward to reading more of you.
Posted by: Veronica at January 19, 2008 01:31 AM (0IolY)
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Hi,
I've been reading since... Ummm... You remember those blogwars stories that Don from AngerManagement did where he was trying to win you away from Jim at snoozebuttondreams... yeah, then. I don't comment much, but then I don't comment much anywhere. I will say that your site has made me cry in the good ways and bad ways more often than I can count, and for that, i have to thank you for sharing.
Take care, girlie.
Tommy.
Posted by: Tommy at January 19, 2008 01:52 AM (Ffmbd)
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I have been a lurker for some time now. I found you on your other blog when I was trying to get pregnant way back when(My daughter is now 5 months old). Let's see it has been over a year now. I have left a few comments....just wanted to say HI!!! Congrats on the babies. They sound absolutly ADORABLE...wobbly head..screaming fits and ALL!!
Thanks for sharing all of your ups and downs with the world...there are times when I feel like you say what I am thinking. ***Confession*** I had my husband read the one where you talked about how you felt about yourself a couple of weeks after you had the babies...ie how could anyone find me attractive when I wear a sports bra 24/7!!! After he read that I think he understood a lot more!
Posted by: Melissa at January 19, 2008 02:10 AM (9dp9D)
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Hi. I think you know I read all the time as I've mentioned your blog more than once on mine. First of all, I'm in awe of the amazing way you write. You really have a way about it. Secondly, I love to read the things you write about your twins, because it really brings me back. Although mine are only 6 months older, they change so much in that time. Everything you are writing, I could have written (although not nearly as eloquently). Nora is similiar to my Hailey, and Nick sounds like Jake. The yin and the yang, the non-stop-smiler and the trier-of-my-patience, both equally the loves of my life.
Don't worry about the milestones. Mine were the same exact way. And BOY did they scream during tummy time! Yours are already ahead, mine didn't roll over until like 5-6 months for the first time! Now Hailey is crawling like a demon, and Jake is just about there. It all evens out in time.
I love the idea of the Christmas book! I'm going to order that now. And LOVE the fairy wings!
Anyway, love the updates, and thanks for commenting on my blog!
Posted by: Erica at January 19, 2008 04:07 AM (D6tE/)
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well, since it's de-lurking day...
Hi, I'm 19 and I live in Canada. I've been reading your blog for 3 years now, and so do two of my friends. We're big fans! When you got engaged and when you got pregnant everyone called each other to share the news. Though we can't much relate to the baby issues, it's sort of nice to have a heads up on it all.
keep writing!
Posted by: anna at January 19, 2008 06:37 AM (1gEvJ)
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I have also been a lurker for many years now. I lost track of you when my computer died and i went un-net for over a year. I came back just in time to find out not only were you expecting but you were giving birth in about 2 months. I am from the US (Georgia), married to the same man for 34 years (why yes i was 4 when i got married) :-) I am enjoying the twins stories and seeing your family grow - i know you know - you are truly blessed.
Posted by: karen at January 19, 2008 07:33 AM (ZLbFS)
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Not delurking as such, but just checking in to say HI! I love the fairy wings. Amy refuses to wear hers, I will have to get a pic sometime soon.
Posted by: Super Sarah at January 19, 2008 07:40 AM (mDcVU)
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I'm reading every day. I have a kinship to Nora. My first reaction to everything is to scream also. I'm glad she's done with TheWeWontMentionItSoWeDontJinxIt though. I'll never know how you and everyone else lived through it.
Have a great weekend!
Posted by: Stella at January 19, 2008 04:15 PM (sFS+Z)
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Hi! I've been reading you since twistedovaries which I linked to from another blog (don't quite remember which one)delurking for the first time though. Thank you for being so honest in your writing. I look forward to what's in store for your family in the future!
Posted by: Abe at January 19, 2008 05:13 PM (JxR0J)
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You know I'm here everyday! I love your progress reports on the babies!
Posted by: kenju at January 19, 2008 05:47 PM (yvCMb)
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de-lurking from North Carolina ... I can't say exactly how long I've been reading you ... but I'm so glad that you are sharing your story ... and glad that things are looking up with the "ThingWeWon'tMentionSoAsNotToJinxIt"
smiles
Posted by: joy at January 19, 2008 06:39 PM (KllT5)
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Always here.....just wanted to share a secret, ssshhh don't tell, but I sucked my thumb when I was little (and still do when I'm am super tired!) and it never did me or my teeth any harm, love Bugs Bunny. Seriously, it's not been a problem.
It's less than 2 weeks till my wedding so if I don't catch up with you before I'll be back reading in March.
Posted by: Becks at January 19, 2008 09:11 PM (+F4jH)
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I may not comment much these days, but I always love coming by to read your posts.
You're on an amazing journey and I thank you for sharing it with us -- the sunny and the dark.
Posted by: Tinker at January 19, 2008 09:32 PM (rU3SM)
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Hi from Michelle in Tennessee! I love reading about your sweet babies. Thank you for sharing them with us.
Posted by: Michelle at January 20, 2008 02:22 AM (9DCVU)
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I comment occasionally and lurk every day, in fact your blog is the first one I turn to when I log in for blogtime - way more fun than tummytime I think.
Mia
Posted by: Mia at January 20, 2008 10:03 AM (k2L5m)
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I am still lurking. I love reading and look forward to your posts everyday.
Erin from Colorado
Posted by: Erin at January 20, 2008 06:32 PM (48jPo)
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I've been reading you for years. Both blogs, actually. Originally by my first name and original blog, but now my pseudo name and new blog.
I send my love.
Posted by: Mia at January 20, 2008 07:27 PM (iUfJz)
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Hi from New Zealand!
Your blog is the first thing I read every morning. You usually post while I am sleeping due to the time difference so I visit first thing with my morning coffee :-)
Lucy
Posted by: Lucy at January 20, 2008 08:28 PM (wAWDE)
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I read you Sunday to Thursday, so I always end up late to these sort of things!
I've been reading you since that Swedish winter. I was going through my own winter at the time; Alberta can be a very desolate place. Things have gotten infinitely better, though I'm still working on it. I so look forward to your words.
I am so glad things have worked out so well for you. Even though there is still struggle, there is so much joy and so much light. It is so wonderful and you deserve every bit of it.
Thank you for letting us join you on your journey.
~L
PS: The babies are SO. CUTE.
Posted by: Laura at January 20, 2008 10:28 PM (eiagc)
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G'day from Melbourne Australia.
Posted by: flikka at January 20, 2008 10:36 PM (/jd2/)
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Hi! Long-time reader, almost never commenter. I have always loved the sometimes raw honesty of your writing and as someone who wants to be a mother in a few years, I really like how you never sugarcoat the ups and downs of motherhood.
Posted by: awatersign at January 20, 2008 11:34 PM (XzQfe)
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Kathy from Cool, California. So happy for you! Mommyhood suits you.
Posted by: Kathy at January 21, 2008 12:00 AM (/CoEY)
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Howdy from Tennessee. I am a mom of 5, the newest little one was born 11/2. I've been reading your blog since you found out it was twins. Your writing never fails to make me cry because you put into words what I feel so often. Thank you for that and keep writing!
Posted by: southern girl at January 21, 2008 02:27 AM (BXZxy)
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Me? Lurk? Nevah! Hah.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that when Babylove was first born (also 4 weeks early) they (the nurses and pediatrician, etc.) cautioned about developmental delays but by the time he was at one year, the lag? She was gone. Totally.
He turned two yesterday. It's all happening so fast!
Love love love,
Posted by: Margi at January 21, 2008 02:42 AM (6jQIM)
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You have been my first read of the day for years. First from Hong Kong - then 18 months (2004/05) from London - all of 2006 from New York and, since January 2007 back lurking from Hong Kong.
Laurence
Posted by: laurence at January 21, 2008 02:53 AM (q8Wkw)
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Separating them from the same crib was a hard night. Mine still sleep in cribs/beds next to each other and like to hold hands while sleeping. It's sweet to see them so close.
Posted by: Mel at January 21, 2008 03:17 AM (Vn6Bc)
Posted by: Heidi at January 21, 2008 06:39 AM (9qaP4)
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Hi Helen! that's it, just wanted to say hi!
Posted by: Suzie at January 21, 2008 10:15 AM (weSjv)
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Reading you for years now (back to the days when you guys used to send a teddy bear on his adventurous journey
), first from Germany and now from England. But I'm a bit shy when it comes to commenting... All the best
Posted by: Ann at January 21, 2008 10:19 AM (vO+5y)
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Hi Helen, I have been reading you for what seems like always. I haven't a clue anymore how I found your site, but I have stuck around because you are outstanding.
When I became a mom almost five years ago I struggled with so many things, I felt I did everything wrong and that my little girl was going to grow up to be the most ill adjusted child ever. I was talking to one of my friends about it all and she said, there is not such thing as an A+ mom, so stop trying to be one. Shot for a B+ mom instead. For some reason, that helped me greatly and still does.
I think you are doing an amazing job of adjusting to motherhood, something that you could never prepare for or even imaging all the changes it creates.
Posted by: Rachel at January 21, 2008 12:34 PM (wRKk7)
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Hello Helen,
Mike from Denmark here, have been reading your blog for almost a year (but read through the archives as well, once you got me hooked).
I am about to become a father this very week, my wife is BPD (most likely; it was your writing about it that cued me in on what the heck was going on...
), and I used to work for a Swedish company too. Best wishes!
Posted by: Mike at January 21, 2008 02:30 PM (80TnW)
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Hi, it's Kimberly from Maryland. I love reading you, you inspire me and make me laugh and cry. Thank you.
Posted by: Kimberly at January 21, 2008 02:41 PM (dyZZj)
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Hey, lurking shields down. Sorry, I didn't catch up on this sooner. I'm out here reading. I comment infrequently, but love to read all the things you have to say. It's been fun to watch you and the babies grow into this new family. Your words are so beautiful and your stories clearly give hope and humor to so many people. Sure, you have bad days, but your words are so clear and so real, it makes me wish I could reach out and offer up a hug.
Christopher
Posted by: Mr.Thomas at January 21, 2008 04:21 PM (LsM3K)
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Hi- I know I'm late on the delurking, but I wanted you to know that I love your blog and I think you are an amazing strong woman! I found your site when I was having troubles getting pregnant. Happily, I am currently 15 weeks along! I love reading your site through the week, you always have something to say that makes me think, or that makes me smile. Keep up the good work, and I'm so so happy for you that Nora's colic seems to be over.
-Erica
SLC, UT
Posted by: Erica at January 21, 2008 05:27 PM (AsFx1)
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I'm late on the delurking, but I've been a faithful reader for years. So long that I can't remember when I started reading your writing.
Posted by: Kimberly at January 21, 2008 06:24 PM (4Yc0K)
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Monica from Mississippi. I read weekly if I can. Glad Nora is doing better. My baby had colic for 6 months. Crazy was my favorite word. Happy for you that things are better.
Posted by: monica at January 21, 2008 10:05 PM (rlAwz)
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I have friends that are girl/girl twins and even as children when they shared a room one would always end up in the others bed and they slept in the same bed for years and I am pretty sure it was a subconscious thing. I love reading your blog; I look forward to it daily.
Posted by: Missgirlbliss at January 22, 2008 02:15 AM (Ge15a)
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Just a friend in Marietta, GA that finds your writing fantastic and inspiring . . . I love to read your posts, and I don't mind ONE BIT if they are all about Nick and Nora!! Happy De-Lurking Day (and sorry I'm a day or so late!).
Posted by: Heather at January 22, 2008 04:13 AM (4+h3e)
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Just a friend in Marietta, GA that finds your writing fantastic and inspiring . . . I love to read your posts. I stumbled upon your Flickr page and followed you to here . . . I'm so glad I did. And -- I don't care ONE BIT -- if ALL of your posts are about Nick and Nora!! Happy De-Lurking Day (sorry if I'm a day or so late -- we'll chalk it up to the time change between Marietta and London.)
Posted by: Heather at January 22, 2008 04:16 AM (4+h3e)
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Hello from Phoenix, AZ. I've been reading your blog since that cold dark winter in Sweden. I rejoiced in the prospect of Dream Job and followed you through therapy. I have my own mental issues that I have to try at every day. Your writing is an inspiration to me, to everyone really, and your style is very amazingly...everyday.
I read most days, that's about as close to "religiously" as I get.
You are wonderful Helen, keep up the great mommy-ing and entertaining us.
Posted by: Carrie at January 22, 2008 06:00 AM (fDl/T)
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Not a lurker, just an infrequent commenter from Florida.
The first post I ever read to the first blog I read regularly was about Von Petty Pumpkin and you telling him that it should fill him right up. Lots of good stuff followed, and here we are.
Posted by: Robert at January 22, 2008 07:00 AM (vsMzD)
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I still read, through links from time to time via bloglines.
Posted by: previously, princess seakitty at January 22, 2008 10:18 AM (yV9oI)
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I've been reading awhile now. I'm not totally regular though, but you probably see me linking in through bloglines.
Sorry for the double post, secondary to typo.
Posted by: PrincessSeaKitty at January 22, 2008 11:55 AM (yV9oI)
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Oh, I just saw this! Hi! Greatly enjoying reading about the exploits of Nick & Nora. And, of course, their mother.
Posted by: Kim at January 22, 2008 04:17 PM (+z19m)
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Is it possible to be a closet lurker? I've emerged occasionally (everyone needs snacks), but mostly stay in the closet. I've visited you since Twisted Ovaries, and want to thank you for the window into your world. Helps keep mine in perspective during all this IVF insanity!
all the best,
Jodie
Posted by: jodie at January 22, 2008 05:04 PM (4twyr)
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Delurking as well. I have 5 yr old b/g twins and your posts are bringing back memories for me. I remember well the first night of having 2 cribs side by side. Very bitter-sweet.
Posted by: Melissa at January 23, 2008 12:49 AM (mY8kJ)
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It has been a while since I have commented. I figured I would "de-lurke". I enjoy your posts about the babies. I have a 4 month old. I feel a lot of the same feelings that you do when it comes to the babies growing up, etc.
Posted by: Ash at January 23, 2008 10:55 PM (wda+A)
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I've been reading for years, though frequent bookmark wipe-outs (all accidental - when will I learn to back them up?) have made it rather sporadic.
Posted by: Annika at January 24, 2008 03:59 AM (sOoJe)
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