February 10, 2009
Rant aside, there are child issues afoot over here, too.
Over Christmas we saw real changes with Melissa and Jeff. Melissa has well and truly become a teenager now, she's stroppy, easygoing, moody, fun, and annoying. On Christmas Day she went into a right tiff, decided to lay on the kitchen counter and be a little shit, and write on her Facebook page that she was sooooooooo depressed. Which of course her mother picked up on like Batman recognizing the Bat Symbol, as the Swunt is a contact on Melissa's page.
Melissa never did tell us what was bothering her, but then maybe she doesn't even know herself. I think maybe she was just having One Of Those Teen Days. I sure had them, I know others did, too.
She recently annoyed me when we told them that we weren't going away on a family holiday the end of February, like we usually do. The kids have off next week and the week after, and we often take family holidays. But this year Angus and I have work deadlines and, more than that, we're worried about money. We have a travel savings account with some money in it, but we're of the opinion that money saved is best kept that way just now. We work in an unstable industry, both of us, and we worry. We told the kids that we would all go away in June, and got a response from Melissa that was along the lines of "I'm not coming if you wait until June. I want to go now."
Angus shrugged. "Looks like we'll be travelling without her then, eh?"
I have a problem with Melissa though, in that she doesn't contribute to the housework at all. If she has breakfast her bowl sits by the couch, where she's parked watching MTV (after rising at noon) until you move it. She will clean things up but only if you ask her. I told the kids last time to be diligent about getting dirty clothes into the hamper. The day they were due to leave I am told she wants to wash everything as "she wants it to smell like our house". Nice sentiment, but guess who did the washing?
Angus and I talked about it and he's going to speak to her about things. This is her other house, not her holiday house. She does not get a break from chores because she's here, this is a household and she has to contribute to the running of it. I think she'll do it and I really truly love the kid, but she isn't the easiest thing in the world since teendom has hit.
And then there's Jeff.
Jeff.
Jeff, who at Christmas, was the recipient of an financial arrangement from me. I went to him with a deal. He's saving up his money for an XBox, and I told him that if he would babysit the babies for me whenever I asked throughout the duration of his stay, then I'd give him £20.
He looked at me, confused. "You'll pay me £20 for playing with the babies when you need to do something?"
"Yeah, is that ok?" I ask him.
"Well, sure. But Helen, you don't need to pay me. I'll watch them for free."
That went straight to my heart, where it still lingers and I pull it out on the days when I know the sun isn't coming out.
Jeff followed through on my request and everytime I asked him to babysit he did without hesitation. He also helped me clean the entire house and tidy the garage one day so I gave him £40 in the end instead of the offered £20. I felt he earned it.
Melissa and Jeff have moved out to the country now. The Swunt's moved them. They seem happier there, and Jeff likes his school a lot. But he's really struggling with things.
They've lost their satellite so Jeff's access to English TV is gone. With that gone, he has little interest in the TV. He loves the computer but he gets a lot of shit from the Swunt about it, so he's taken to reading library books. He's actually very clever and inquisitive, and when he's here I have a great time with him.
We found out that the Swunt got a massive tax refund. We're talking...massive. So massive that they left most of their furniture behind in the old house and have bought all new, including new electronics. Jeff did a lot of research on what TV the family should get, checking things online and statistics on performance, but when he went to give input he was told "What could an 11-year old know about it?" Nice. Children always do well when you body chop them at the knees.
He's told me that the Swunt is buying another horse. I asked why, and the reason is so crazy it's almost surreal - when you ride one of the horses the one left behind in the stable gets lonely. So if they buy another horse then no horse in the stable needs to be left alone.
Sweet Jesus who knew the Girl Scouts handed out Crazy Badges?
See, that's what the problem is with me, people. I put my children above my equestrian needs. I should be all about ensuring my pets are happy. Screw childhood, let's all band together and scar a whole generation! Who's with me?
The Swunt and Jeff had another run-in last week. We've asked the Swunt if Jeff could come live with us and had the door kicked in our email faces. We're proposing he spend the summer here with us, to see if maybe he can have some time here. I'm very sure that will get rejected, too.
Jeff arrives next Wednesday. Melissa arrives the Monday after that. I can't wait to see both of them because I miss them when they're away.
-H.
PS - I signed up for Goodreads, as it was recommended by Pru. Come look me up and join me - I'm listed there as Helen Adelaide or helen@everydaystranger.eu (my IRL friends can suck it!). We can all use recommendations for good things to read, and you can gawk at some of the things I'm reading. I'm thinking of starting a virtual book club again. I was part of the fabulous Mel's, but am thinking of reviewing different kinds of books. Book clubs challenge me to read books I ordinarily wouldn't, and I love getting people's take on things. Anyone interested?
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