April 08, 2009
The alarm beeped.
I awoke immediately. Not because I was scared, but because beeps and chimes and whistles wake me the fuck up. I lay there, breathing quietly.
*Beep* went the alarm.
*Beep* it went again, which could only mean the door was either A) closed or B) another door opened.
*Beep* again.
And again.
And again.
This could only mean one thing - the garage door had blown open in the wind again, as it does since it got warped and has decided not to close properly.
And because I'm one of those people who will absolutely cave under torture if you play repetitive sounds, who will tell you all the state secrets you want to hear and reveal all the passwords you need to get access to various systems if you put me anywhere near a car alarm or security alarm going off, this meant I would not be sleeping until the beeping was solved.
There was only one thing to do.
"Angus," I say, poking him in the back.
I get a grunt in reply.
"Angus," I say again, a little more urgently. "The alarm is beeping."
"It's the wind," he mumbles.
"Can't you turn off the alarm?" I ask.
"Can't remember the pin code," comes the reply. Most excellent.
*Beep*.
*Beep*.
*Beep*.
"Dude, the beeping isn't going to stop."
With a huge sigh that could only possibly convey a concession of the highest standard - he'd just agreed to amputate an arm, say, or to give up trains forever in favor of knitting toilet roll cozies - he rose out of bed. "Great. Now I won't be able to go back to sleep," he practically howled.
See now, this is not what we women want. Yes, I was perfectly capable of going outside and closing the garage door myself, only I would like to present the following in my defense, your honor.
1) I'm not the one who left the garage door open.
2) It was chucking it down with rain and I'm absolutely blind as a bat anyway - add rain and glasses and it just gets worse.
and 3) - and this is the most important one - He's the man.
That's right.
Feminist Helen has just declared that this was Man Work.
Because it is. Yes, there is nothing in my genetic make up that says that I, a woman, could not go outside and deal with the door. But say it wasn't a door banging in the wind. Say it was a pack of wild and ruthless gang members (so, so common out here in quiet rural Hampshire countryside) who were hanging on the doors in an attempt to lure a young(ish) woman outside to rape and pillage her.
I guess basically I felt it was his job to deal with the banging door because I have a vagina.
Here's how I see things: yes, I am firm on equal rights for women. I am clear that women can do anything that men can do. But that doesn't mean we have to do them. It just means we can. We can't all be Sigourney Weaver from Aliens, grabbing a flame thrower and searching hallways to kick some ass, just as we can't all be the useless cheerleader bitch who runs up the stairs when being chased by an axe-wielding madman, when everyone knows you need to run down stairs.
Some of us are in between. We'll hide in the hall closet. We'll grab a flame thrower and hunt down aliens if we have to, but it may mean we'll need a change of knickers handy.
And if I'm honest - which I try to be - as a woman I like to imagine that if a sound of an intruder is heard in the house that my man will be leaping out of the bed, soundlessly landing in a haunch as he listens, wolf-like, to any sound that may be heard.
"Don't move!" he'd order hoarsely. "There's a sound downstairs! It could be someone here to arrest your virtue!"
"But I don't have any virtue," I'd protest.
"Work with me on this romantic, unrealist fantasty, dammit! My first job is to protect you and my family! Stay there, bolt the door, and let me go down and face almost certain destruction and carnage in order that my family may live another day!"
I'd hold a pale white hand to the base of my throat, elegantly avoiding the froth of lace that spilled forth. "Be careful, my darling!" I'd urge as my beloved stealthily crept out the door to protect his hearth and home.
Of course, all of that is total horseshit, and not just because I don't sleep in a frilly nightgown. In my entire time of being a Woman Sleeping Next To Another Man (and there have been a few Other Men, I'll accept that "whore" mantilla), I've yet to meet a man who will do that. Well, apart from Kim that is, who worked paranoia in ways I have yet to understand. He kept an AR-15 (which he always called "My Ar-15 semi-automatic three round controlled burst." He was not into nicknames.) under the bed and would fly out the bed holding said weapon if you heard so much as a pin drop. That boy was a love, but man he had issues. I think he was working the He's the Man angle at little too closely to the wind.
No, in general most men are of the "I'm sleeping. If someone comes in and kills us, then so be it. If they're just here for the TV, they're welcome to it." My X Partner Unit in Sweden was one of those - I'd hear a noise in the house. I'd wake him. He'd shrug. I would be unable to sleep the rest of the night, certain masked gunmen were downstairs laying trip wires and looking to molest me.
I'll be frank (or Bob, whatever) - I like the idea that the man is willing to stare down the figure of danger for me. That he'd be the one to put himself in the way of danger just to ensure that I, as the mother of his beloved children, would be safe. This really flies in the face of my feminist leanings, I know, and I haven't yet worked out what's beneath all of this, so I'm going to chalk it up to the same compulsion I have for adoring firemen. Must be a pheromone thing.
Angus trudged outside with no small lack of grace. He closed the doors and the beeping stopped. He came back in and did have difficulties falling asleep again, but sleep came in the end. He protected his house and home against the horrible intrusion of the wind.
Me, I slept like a baby after that.
-H.
PS-Vicki, happy birthday to J and B!
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